Bella and her boyfriend of five years, Abdi, bought a house. I fear I am part of the reason this happened. They happily occupied an apartment that had been in Abdi's family for many years, but it was not in the safest part of town. Around a Michigan campfire a few years ago, when Bella and I played a what-would-you-change game one night, I said in regard to her, the one and only thing I would wave ...